How to Talk to Your College-Bound Kid About the Red Zone
From the DARCC Education Department, Maggie Bego, Director of Education
In just a few weeks, your child will leave home for college, likely for the first time on their own for an extended period. Letting them go can feel overwhelming because you care so deeply. You have probably already talked about laundry, what to pack, and other practical details. One important conversation that often gets overlooked is about the Red Zone. Having this talk is crucial for their safety.
The Red Zone is the time between move-in and Thanksgiving break when students, especially freshmen, face a higher risk of sexual assault. New environments, parties, alcohol, and unfamiliar social situations increase the chances of danger. Many students have never even heard of the Red Zone before. Having this conversation does not need to be heavy or scary. It just needs to happen and can make all the difference.
Begin with kindness. You don’t need perfect words. A simple statement like “I want to talk about something important before you go” is enough to start the conversation.
Discuss consent and boundaries. Help them understand they have the right to say no, change their mind, and expect their boundaries to be respected. Consent must be clear, mutual, and given without pressure or impairment. Check out DARCC’s resources to help navigate some of these conversations.
Introduce the term Red Zone. Explain that it is a real period of increased risk affecting thousands of students each year. Talking about it helps them recognize warning signs and stay safer.
Provide helpful phrases they can use in tricky situations, such as:
“I’m not drinking tonight.”
“She doesn’t look okay. Let’s check on her.”
“I want to leave now.”
“I came with my friends, and I’m leaving with them too.”Let them know you are a safe space
Be clear and reassuring:
“If anything ever happens or doesn’t feel right, I will be here for you. You are not in trouble, and I will believe you.”Share available support
Make sure they know about resources like DARCC’s 24/7 crisis line:
972-641-7273
Free support, counseling, and other services are available at www.dallasrapecrisis.org
Why this matters
The school year starts next month. Students will be navigating new routines, meeting new friends, and adjusting to different social environments. These changes bring exciting opportunities but also create vulnerabilities. Your voice as a parent or caregiver plays a vital role in helping them feel safer, more prepared, and supported. You don’t have to have all the answers. What matters most is showing up and starting the conversation.